Breakups are tough and while most people would say you need to cheer up because it’s not the end of the world, it’s easier said than done. You feel broken and want to spend most of your time alone wallowing in self-pity and sorrow. Here’s the thing- it’s okay. It’s okay to be sad and vent, you’re just going through different stages of grief of losing someone you couldn’t live without (or at least you thought you couldn’t).
If your relationship was a long and serious one, the breakup can really throw your life out of sync. But here’s the main question- how much is too much? Experiencing pain and channelising your sorrow is normal, but when should you turn a new leaf and get over it? And how exactly are you magically going to get over it?
Studies have shown that an average person takes 6 months to get over a breakup but the truth is: everyone copes with the situation differently, everyone uses different methods to move on, and everyone needs a different amount of time before they can start forgetting their ex and starting a new chapter in their life.
Here are some things you need to do:
Delete the number
You need to get rid of the digits almost immediately. Yes, it may seem ruthless and you’ll probably still remember their number for the rest of your life, but you need to delete the number immediately to initiate the ‘I’m gonna get over this’ ceremony.
Get rid of the social media connection
Stop stalking your ex on social media the very next week. Stop lurking to check if they’re dating someone else. You’re wasting your time and honestly, hampering your self-respect too.
Forgive and forget
If you keep thinking your ex is the villain who did you wrong, you’re never getting over him. No matter what happened just remember this- the person is gone from your life. Anything that happens to him, be it good or bad, doesn’t affect you anymore. Take a month to think about everything that was wrong in the relationship and why it wouldn’t work out and forgive them.
Ethically, wait for around two months to give yourself some space before you hook up with someone. Do not hook up if you’re just looking to date again, you’ll end up hurting yourself. And if you’re the unhealthy type, hook up with someone next week (to each his own, right?).
Finally, it’s time to move on. Post six months, depending on the severity of your break up, you’re ready to get into a steady relationship. If your relationship was a very serious 6-year-relationship-we-wanted-to-get-married kinda thing, try going for casual dates and flings at this point because you’re probably too vulnerable to start dating again.
Ready to move the hell on?
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