It’s 2017 and we are apparently still telling women what to wear and ‘how much’ of our own bodies are appropriate to cover. There have been various instances of women in offices, and colleges and girls in schools being told what constitutes ‘proper attire’, but who would have thought that even pool time now comes with a dress monitor. And in this particular instance, it’s not just the clothes that are under surveillance, but a woman’s body too. Because are you even a lady if you have curves?
Tori Jenkins was at a pool at her own residential complex when she was asked to change her outfit or step out of the pool because her bathing suit was ‘inappropriate’ according to the leasing consultant. Tori and her fiance Tyler Newman where lounging by the pool with their friends when the incident took place.
“Tori was accused of wearing a “thong bathing suit” and told there were complaints about the way she was dressed after roughly 3 minutes tops, of us arriving there. We both kind of sat there in disbelief around five of our friends, some of which are residents and some not.”
With few minutes of arrival, Jenkins was asked to cover up, wear shorts, or straightaway leave. As per the Facebook post Tyler put up, the leasing consultant “tried to convince Tori to let her take pictures of her butt to show how ‘inappropriate’ it was,” and added that “she wouldn’t want her own kids around Tori.”
“…the woman told Tori that a “normal bathing suit covers your entire butt” and again deemed my fiancée’s body inappropriate.”
Reportedly, one of the many reasons Jenkins was asked to change was because there were many teenage boys in the pool so they didn’t want her to “excite them”
“She was told that her body, because it’s built more curvy than others is “too inappropriate” for children to be around. She was told ‘there are a lot of teenage boys in this complex, and you don’t need to excite them’.”
Her fiance Tyler took to Facebook to express his disbelief toward the whole act. He was clearly agitated and highlighted the matter with his viral Facebook post pinned with few pictures of his fiance in that same bathing suit. “My fiancée should be able to wear a bathing suit without being sexualized and demeaned. She shouldn’t feel violated,” he concluded.
Tyler Newman highlighted just why this monitoring of a grown woman’s body and her clothes by total strangers is not okay:
MY POINT: My fiancée being told she should cover up on a 90 degree day in our own apartment pool because she will “excite teenage boys” is bullshit. I will not stand for this. My fiancée should be able to wear a bathing suit without being sexualized and demeaned. She shouldn’t feel violated. I will make a live video of my personal opinion and reasons why this is unnecessary soon.
The staff spokesperson issued a statement after the matter was highlighted and condemned.
As per Buzzfeed, Smoky Crossing issued a statement saying “multiple residents expressed concerns regarding Ms. Jenkins’ swimwear. One of our leasing consultants requested Ms. Jenkins wrap a towel around herself when she was walking around the pool. Ms. Jenkins was never asked to leave the pool. In addition, our leasing agent did not state that Ms. Jenkins swimwear would ‘excite teenage boys’.”
Whether she was asked to leave the pool or not, the question still remains: are we as a society allowed to regulate who wears what and how much of our bodies are we allowed to show or cover? This is, after all 2017.
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