Arranged marriages have always drawn flak for their tradition of going to a woman’s place with a ‘rishta’ and we all know what follows after that. Not that both men and women are not subjected to similar ridiculous judgments when it’s a love marriage, but with arrange marriages being treated like going wife/husband shopping, rejection for absolutely bizarre reasons is not rare. don’t get us wrong, rejecting someone is not a crime. Being vicious and petty about it, however, is.
This Pakistani Twitter user oh_my_mascara was rejected for a ridiculous reason and that pushed her to ask women around the world to share their own experiences. And, why not actually? If those rejecting these ladies or men could afford to be petty and proud, their reasons deserve to do the rounds of social media. The lady who started this much-needed discussion, did it with this tweet.
Ladies, quote this with whatever physical appearance you were rejected for by rishta people. I was rejected yesterday for bad front teeth.
— Sesh_ (@Oh_My_Mascara) February 26, 2017
‘Bad front teeth’. Like, seriously? Such a nice girl she is to have not bitten them with her teeth. They were very deserving of that we’d say.
What she started off with this one tweet was a chain of tweets where people came out and introduced Twitter to the absolutely unfathomable world of ‘rishtas’. From getting rejected for being too ‘bold’ (we have no idea what that means!) to getting turned down because her degree would take too long, women have faced it all. The classic ‘thodi zyada healthy hai’ and issues with women being anything short of white as milk also make an appearance.
@Oh_My_Mascara I got rejected cz my brother is mentally retarded and he would have become my responsibility after marriage._
— Priya Shukla (@2111priya_priya) March 2, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara Yes, I got rejected as well based on makaan accha nhi, humarey gher se aap ka gher bohut duur hai, caste same nhi hai.
— Usman Khalid (@usman_khalid87) March 1, 2017
One of my FB Friend was rejected because she has diabetes.
— Masuma Akter (@Masuma918) February 28, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara this has nothing to do with physical appearance but I was rejected for coming from a broken family, it was tough.
— ree-united (@GulabJamunHigh) February 27, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara I was once rejected for being too “bold”. By that she meant confident 😛
— Kainaat Iqbal (@kanubat) February 27, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara i read it on fb n had to share this,i ws rejected coz m a physio n mst b touching way too many guys
— aisha arshad (@aisha__ahd) February 27, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara rejected coz too fat, too tall, too opinionated, not enuf dowry, being a mixed chaat aka sindhi&mohajir. It goes on n on n on
— Sana.I (@Sanaa_Ijaz) February 27, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara my sister in law was once rejected coz she was not wearing any makeup when rishta wala visited _
— Fasiha Farrukh (@FasihaFarrukh) February 27, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara happened with my cousin alot.She had a really tiny nasal hump. Got rejected by so many times that she had to undergo surgery.
— Kiran_ (@dia_ze_pam) February 26, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara and I love how my mother has to add a disclaimer while talking to an aunty, “Ji, meri beti thori “healthy” hai.” _
— Kainaat Iqbal (@kanubat) February 27, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara never faced such situation but yeah “i am way too slim” to get married.. heard that alot
— VisionOfEcstasy (@weirdtobe) February 26, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara “looks too modern”, “will take too long for her law degree” – and im like who even asked for a rishta? Byeeee__
— Ash (@ash2fly4u) February 27, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara Exactly! This is just our society,I’ve suffered so much just because of my brown complexion as they all call it “kaali”
— Dania raees (@DaniaSiddiqui95) February 27, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara ill make you a thread of rishta stories. We are 5 sisters so theres loads. Lololol
— LadySaga (@Tazi_Nakvi) February 26, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara a friend was rejected for being ‘too talkative’. What even?!
— . (@rantsofkm) February 26, 2017
@SyedaSamarZehra Jab hum apartments may rehtay thay I was rejected for living there._
— Sesh_ (@Oh_My_Mascara) February 27, 2017
@Oh_My_Mascara More than that, I’ve seen people rejecting girls on materialistic basis. The ‘area’ they live in, their house, ‘tea set’ etc.
— Samar Zehra Zaidi (@SyedaSamarZehra) February 27, 2017
I was rejected last year for telling them that I love working in media and won’t quit. https://t.co/vOVM0GOUer
— Amina (@Aamenaah) February 26, 2017
rejected x times because i was ‘moo phat,’ rude & confrontational. BC, you’ve come here inspecting a human like a horse & i’m the rude one? https://t.co/7WFUV5SFar
— Mehar Khursheed (@meharwk) February 27, 2017
In non physical things, too educated, working women, reads too much, is only daughter so must be really laadli, too introverted, etc, etc. https://t.co/VMxn6PcBa5
— Faiza Yousuf (@FaizaYousuf) February 26, 2017
Yes, well. We are still pretty much at ‘what even?’. Got anymore ‘rishta’ stories? Tweet it out to this lovely lady or tell us.