It doesn’t matter how outgoing you are or if you are the ‘dude‘ in your gang of guys, sex for the first time is a big deal. Whether you are losing your virginity or doing it for the first time with him, it is a bit awkward and a level of discomfort is unavoidable. Just like life, sex is a learning process and there’s no other way of getting better (and comfortable) at it other than loads and loads of practice.
While one gets comfortable after doing it after a couple of times, it’s the first time that is tricky and can get a little too painful, especially if you are not ready.
Sex is a taboo in India and there is no manual guide like ‘How to do it right the first time 101‘ to help young girls debunk the myths and understand the process at large. To say that the first time is scary (owing to lack of knowledge) and high on expectations (remember the epic Hollywood romance?) wouldn’t be an understatement.
So, here are some facts about the first time that you should know so that it’s all fun and pleasure:
About that pain
A little pain is unavoidable when you are having vaginal sex for the first time. It can be caused due to a variety of factors like illness, physical factors or psychological factors. You can reduce the pain by using foreplay and additional lubricants. However, if the pain persists, consult a gynecologist.
Bloody bed sheets
One of the most popular myths about the first time is that it will bleed. This might happen when a thin membrane at the entrance of the vagina called hymen breaks. However, it is important to note that hymen can break due to a number of reasons like a workout, cycling or even swimming. Point? You might not bleed at all.
Okay, let me make one thing very clear, making babies is not that easy and you won’t get pregnant, especially if you both are taking adequate preventive measures. And if after having your magical moment, you’re still unsure just pop an emergency contraceptive pill.
Fear of getting a sexually transmitted disease (STD) is another popular misconception in the minds of the first timers. Dear gals, if you are taking proper precautions there’s no need for you to worry about contracting an STD.
‘You’re not a virgin (anymore)’
Virginity is a much-hyped topic in India. A girl’s character is judged based on her virginity status. But please don’t make a big deal out of it (if you did it willingly with your partner). It’s a biological process that is meant to be enjoyed not regretted upon.
Expectations vs reality
Expectations have the power to ruin almost anything. There are a lot of what ifs associated with the first time– what if I’m not able to do it right? What if he doesn’t do it right? What if bad sex kills the romance? While a certain level of expectations is unavoidable, don’t expect Hollywood kinda action in bed.
Nothing will be the same
Again one of the over-hyped aspects of having sex is that you will never be the same or things will be different etc. Ladies, it’s a biological process, while our bodies do change in certain ways, there’s no need for you to be ashamed of.
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